Hold it gently in your palms,
that arrived unwelcome.
It is as confused as you and I, and yet,
wise to know its transforming hand.
Please be advised that you may still require therapeutic or clinical support to help you with processing your grief. Coaching does not replace therapy. They may work very well in parallel. Please use your judgment or seek professional help to determine the right option(s) for you.
If you determine that you may benefit from grief coaching, or life coaching for specific areas of your life, I would be honored to work with you.
Why you may consider grief coaching
First and foremost, I am here to support you, to help find a balance of two equally important things. These are being present for your grief and dealing with the new life that is now available for you.
This equilibrium will most likely fluctuate as you move through your grief. Different milestones such as significant events and dates will shift the gears. Sometimes for a brief time, sometimes for a long stretch, and sometimes permanently. Grief is already transformative and you are already on your path of transformation, with or without me.
Whenever you require
- a sounding board,
- a guiding light,
- tangible practices, tools, pointers and strategies,
- thinking out of the box
always coupled with kindness and compassion, you can bring me in.
If you are intrigued or have specific questions, please drop me a line, and we can have a one-time session to see how it may be helpful.
What I hold within me is how I intend to sincerely support you. I am here due to a combination of personal experiences of loss, benefiting from the practices that supported me through my experiences of grief, my academic studies, and being with the dying and the bereaved.
You may find more about my professional credentials here, so as not to repeat.
My personal experiences with death of loved ones began with the death of my only living grandparent when I was 9, followed by the deaths of two teenager-hood friends due to brutal murder and terminal illness, both at the age of 13. These were also the ages when I began my investigations in meditation and yoga. My mother died when I was twenty-seven, my father died five years later, both due to terminal illness.
I found healing through cultivating meditative mind states, Hatha yoga, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) and martial arts (I earned second degree black belt in Uechi-Ryu karate). After losing a few more friends to untimely accidents and terminal illnesses, I believed that I had become all too familiar with the impermanent nature of life, accepting the continuous cycle of birth and death. To an extent, this was true.
In 2014, my vibrant husband became suddenly ill of an incurable and rare illness and died within six weeks. I spent six weeks with him in two major hospitals in two major cities, while our five-year-old son was being cared for by family most of the time.
Experiencing the grief of losing a life partner, while raising a very young grieving child, initially proved to be the hardest endeavor of my life. My saving grace, first and foremost, was our son. My second saving grace was a combination of my practices that I had cultivated for many years. These practices took a life of their own. They both helped ground me and also whisked me on a life transformation as I became fully present to my grief and also adjusted to a changed life, which some people may call a life turned upside down very quickly.
My contemplative and contemporary practices carried me with kindness and awareness during my grief and to a fuller life journey. Enough so that I returned back to school, getting a graduate degree in Mindfulness Studies, making significant career transitions to come to a place which feels truer to my heart and life purpose than it has ever felt before.